The meltdown in the grocery store.
The fit pitched on the soccer field.
The call from the principal.
The truth is that in our society we tend to assume that if a child is behaving in a negative manner, they are reflecting the poor parenting skills of their parent. We often judge ourselves and other parents based upon the behaviors of our children.
As a result, I often find myself trying to change the behavior of my kids so that I am seen as a better parent. I want them to reflect the good that is in me. I want them to reflect the fact that I am a good parent.
It is in the emotionally charged parenting moments that I so often forget one thing: my kids were never designed to reflect me.
My kids (and myself) were designed to reflect the image of our Heavenly Father.
My kids were created in God's image. They may bear a resemblance to me or my husband, but God placed his own image at the very core of who they are.
Am I doing all that I can to ensure they reflect His image?
Am I more concerned that they reflect my positive image?
I want them to reflect the image of their Creator Father. Not their tired mama.
I hope they reflect eyes full of grace and not the judgmental glance of their earthly mother.
I pray they reflect hands that serve and not the selfish, tired hands of their mom.
I trust they will reflect an attitude of joy that is all so often missing in their stressed out, overly committed parents.
As I look at them today, I realize my highest calling as a parent is to ensure that I reflect the image of my Heavenly Father. In so doing, the reflection the world sees when they look at my kids won't be of me or my husband, but rather, the One who designed, and intentionally created them to reflect His likeness.
How about you? Do you worry about your kids being a negative (or positive) reflection upon you? How has this influenced your behavior?