Being a parent is tough stuff. It seems that the never ending decision making most days is enough to bring even the strongest person to their knees.
A few years ago we made a decision that has proven to be one of the most difficult parenting decisions we’ve ever made. Each new friend and new situation causes us to have to explain, yet again our position on the issue.
We don’t allow our kids to do sleepovers. I know it’s extreme. The thing is, I will do extreme if it means protecting the hearts of my daughters.
There are times as parents we are called on to make tough decisions.
Decisions other parents don’t “get.”
Decisions that are unpopular.
Decisions based on our value system that may be different from our kids friends.
When called upon to make tough parenting calls, remember the following:
- Parent apart from emotion: we all like to make our kids happy. I don’t like to rock the boat. I love it when there is peace in my home. Sometimes making the tough call means I am going to really upset the peace in my home because someone is going to be unhappy.
- Remember your role as parent: God gave each kid a mom and a dad and the potential for many friends. He didn’t call me to be a friend. I admit, it would be easier to be a friend to my kids.
- Know the “why” behind the way: don’t make knee jerk reactions. Make decisions on “policies” that your family will adopt after really reasoning things out. Remembering the “why” behind something will help you in moments of weakness when you may be tempted to go back on your decisions. Keeping the “purpose” always at the forefront of your mind will help you stay the course.