Want to help your kids quantify what a healthy relationship should be in one question? Use this...in each relationship you are involved in the other person must love Jesus more than he/she loves you. If he/she doesn't, he/she will never REALLY know how to love you the way God designed.
Here are five questions that you could use this weekend to promote discussion.
1. What is the purpose of dating? (The purpose of dating is actually to discover whether or not someone is marriage material. It's only in the last couple of generations that "dating" has taken on a casual meaning)
2. What do you think God's purpose for marriage is?
3. For daughters.... In "Six Ways to Keep The Little in Your Girl" author Dannah Gresh talks about allowing your daughter to dream about her prince. Talk with your daughter about what CHARACTER traits she thinks are admirable in a future spouse. It may be hard for her to really grasp the importance of godly character in a mate. Talk about how things like honesty, integrity, and compassion are traits that could make/break a relationship.
4. If God was the one who designed marriage, what sorts of things do you think are important to him as part of a healthy marriage?
5. Challenge your kids to think of a current pop song that ISN'T about love. It will prove difficult. Ask them to think about how pop/country music will influence their views on love/relationships. Talk to to them about how people are in love with the idea of being in love. Talk about what their future might look like if God had plans for them to remain single?
Taking a completely different turn.......
Ask kids to think about practical ways they could demonstrate the love of Jesus over Valentine's Day weekend.
How does serving others show that we are in love with Jesus?