Make no doubt about it, movies like "Fifty Shades" do have an impact upon our culture...and culture, influences our kids.
One positive outcome from "Fifty Shades" is the opportunity that it provides you to enter into conversations with your kids regarding God's design for sex. Don't shy away from this opportunity. Embrace it.
If you think that your kids aren't hearing about the movie, think again. Teen girls are planning to see the movie to "learn tips." Parents, now is the time to talk. When kids reach a certain age and our opinions carry less weight, ask questions.
Here are some to get the ball rolling:
1. What sorts of things have you heard about the movie "Fifty Shades of Grey?"
2. What do you think about sexual acts being depicted in a movie? This movie is pornographic. Pornography has been proven to leave long-lasting, negative impacts upon the human mind. Knowing that, why are so many people drawn to see this movie/read the book?
3. This movie demonstrates violent sexual acts against women. How do you feel about that? Knowing that God's design for marriage and a sexual relationship is that there is mutual respect for one another, how do you think kids/parents should approach the depiction of a sexual relationship involving violence?
4. Lots of kids may be using this movie as a way to "learn" more about sex. I know it may seem awkward at times, but I want you to know that I'm always here for you to ask questions. I will do my best to be honest with you. There are lots of kids who don't have that at home. How might seeing this movie "educate" them in ways that are counter to what God says about a sexual relationship between a husband and wife?
Being intentional as a parent is tough. Do the tough work. Have the tough conversations. This movie isn't going away. Talk about it with your kids. Teach them what it means to live as a Christian in a godless society.
Tell me how it goes. What sorts of questions did you ask? Have you already talked about it? What was the outcome?