Priority: I want them to know that making disciples at home is priority number one. I model this first and foremost in my own family. I resource them with ideas, books, and discussion guides that show them how to make this practical. I don't want this to be something that I am merely "telling" them about. I will also give them opportunity at ministry events to learn how to conduct these faith discussions at home.
Proactive: I will teach them to be proactive. Many of us parents coast through life taking it as it comes our way. What if we began with the end in mind? What if we taught parents to define today what they pray for their children tomorrow? I want the parents who are a part of my ministry to know the character traits and spiritual strengths their kids will have tomorrow. I believe these can be formed and shaped because a parents intentionally pours into the spiritual lives of their children. I want to show parents how to put as much thought into the spiritual nurture of their children as they do into whether their child makes the next travel league.
Purpose: Parents must know that their own purpose first. They need to know that God designed them to be in relationship with them. I have to emphasize this often. If a parent doesn't see this, the other two points will be moot. If a parent doesn't embrace Jesus as their own, they will see no need to proactively lead or to make the spiritual development a priority in their home.
How about you? If you could narrow your focus to parents and describe in just three words what would they be?