I believe that most of the people with whom I serve believe the same. Until I show them that I care, they couldn't care less about how much I know. They don't care from where/how many degrees I have. They want to know that I know them. My team wants to know that I am invested in them personally.
I know that it matters to me. When the leader above me takes a vested interest in my family life, ministry, or even my health, I feel valued. That's what I want to pass along to my team. I want them to feel valued.
The best way that I've discovered to do this is by texting them this question on a fairly regular (every other month) basis: "how can I best pray for you and your family this week?"
This one question has allowed me access into the personal lives of our Children's Ministry Team Members in a way that I could not have accessed before. This one question has led to cups of coffee over shared hurts, prayer together before/after an event, and allowed me to know when someone had a need that I could possibly help meet.
Powerful results in this one question. It will change your ability to lead. You will have earned a ton of relational currency and loyalty as a leader. You can take that to the bank.
How about you? Do you have one way of connecting with your KidMin Team that works for you?