This isn't about me. I'm fine, thank you very much.
We teach our kids from an early age it's all about them. We'll completely reprioritize our lives or schedules to accommodate a desire they have. We'll move mountains to ensure that they can get on the best sporting teams, dance at the best academy, or get into the best colleges.
The reason this gets me is because The Bible very clearly teaches us that ITS NOT ABOUT US! Our lives are very clearly (as described in scripture) about being in relationship with God, submitting to His will and direction, and about teaching others to do the same.
So, you can imagine my shock yesterday when I heard someone allude to the fact that perhaps God was using an issue with my child to TEACH ME something. Seriously?! This isn't about me. I'm fine, thank you very much.
This is so much more about the behavioral issues we've had, the frustrations that we experience or the never ending emotional and physical fatigue parenthood brings. This is NOT. ABOUT. ME.
Well, what if it were? What if God really did "cause ALL things to work together for (my) good?" What if He is using the situations I walk through as a parent to teach me to be submissive to Him more throughout my day?
What if He were trying to show me that my kids are His and not really mine anyways. What if He wants to teach me to lean on Him more than the parenting books I'm tempted to stick my nose in?
What if the imperfections in my kids are being used.....because He promised that He would work all things together for our good......to mold me....to change me....to call me into a deeper relationship with Him?
What if He really does?
I realize that this could be about me. It could be these parenting struggles that I face are the very things that God is using to make me more like Him.
Sometimes parenting is painful. Most days completely exhausting. More often than not I have no idea what I'm doing. But what if I'm good with that because I know the One who is?
Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who are called according to his purpose."
Genesis 50: 20 "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good, to accomplish what is now being done."
Today its about me. Not the kind of "about me" that will go and get a mani, pedi, earn me lots of Kohl's cash. But instead, the "about me" that says, "OK, Lord would You help me to know if there's something I should be learning through this experience as a mom?" "What about my character needs to be refined? I'm Yours God because this could be about me."
How about you? Have you ever thought about how God could be using your parenting struggles to teach you something? In what ways has He shown you it is about you?