Most days what you'd find is a pajama clad girl with spit up in her hair who struggles just to keep up with emails, phone calls, and paying the bills.
To have it all means that I can balance career and family equally. I can rise to the top of my chosen profession while wearing the Super Mom cape and stilettos at the same time. Who falls for this stuff? Probably the same girls who grow up dreaming of princes and "happily ever afters."
I have to admit that sometimes I wish I were that woman. Most days what you'd find is a pajama clad girl with spit up in her hair who struggles just to keep up with emails, phone calls, and paying the bills.
Sometimes I compare myself to my male counterparts in ministry and find myself feeling envious. I feel envious that they don't usually miss conferences because of childcare issues. Their schedules are generally a bit more flexible than mine. When they're leading church events it's usually not them that's responsible for the care of their own children.
You see it's a pretty slippery slope. The whole "grass being greener" thing isn't usually true. I also know that Satan loves to have a hay day with my mind...making me think that I'm missing out on something that someone else is receiving. I cannot allow myself to constantly think someone else has it better than I do, is a better mom, or is better at balancing her career/ministry. That's definitely giving Satan a foothold.
A couple of years ago I began asking the question "what is God's design for women?" Did He really want them to have a full family life, cook dinner, be involved in the church, and compete for the biggest, brightest spots within the work force? I don't believe that He did. I believe that the world has told us that we can have it all. All the while, something somewhere suffers.
In my reading and research I came across this. "The most important question about motherhood isn't, "Should I work outside the home or not?" The most important question is, "Will I allow God to use the circumstances of my life and my family to accomplish great things for His kingdom?" Getting caught up in trying to figure out the perfect balance of work and home distracts many mothers from seeing the plain truth that only God can fill you and use your gifts to achieve maximum gain." (Beyond Bathtime Erin Davis)
That spoke to me. If my end aim in all I do is to allow God to accomplish great things for the sake of His Kingdom through myself and my family then the "balancing act" really doesn't matter. Whew! It's not a score to be settled or a balance to achieve.
So in the midst of this momma's madness, I must remember that God didn't promise me I could have it all. He promised that He would be all!
How about you? How do you see your role as mom/wife/career/ministry person?
In an interview done for USA Today with Christine Lagarde, one of the most powerful women in the country, she had this to say about why there aren't more female leaders in business today. "My principle that I've always tried to observe is: don't imitate the boys. Be yourself and bear the difference. " (USA Today Monday, April 15, 2013)
Women, don't dream of all that you are "missing out on." Instead, embrace who you are today.