The thing is, I'm ok with being a jerk..........if I'm seen as a jerk it means I'm doing my job.
I am not sure how many times in a week I am really a jerk or am just perceived to be by the pre-teen girls who's emotions run rampant in my home.
The thing is, I'm ok with being a jerk............if I'm seen as a jerk it means I'm doing my job.
What is my role as the co-lead jerk in my home (yeah, dad can be a real jerk too)?
"Just because" mentality doesn't fly. Just because my kids friends are allowed to have Facebook pages or own the latest cell phone doesn't mean that mine will. Just because other kids are allowed to watch certain movies doesn't mean mine will. This sometimes makes me a jerk.
Enforcement is priority. Yep, when we have a rule, we stick with it. I admit there are many times when it breaks my heart to see my kids suffer the consequences of their actions. There are lots of times when it would be easier to let things slide. To do that would get me the title of friend rather than jerk but it's not what I've been called to do as a parent. If I teach my kids
it's ok to bend our rules, I am teaching them there are no absolutes in life and that it's ok to bend God's rules too.
Realize what's at stake. Sometimes I get caught up in a moment and am tempted to think "well, it won't hurt for them to do that this once" or "it would be much easier to let her do this than to engage in an argument where I am, once again, presented as the jerk." As a Christian parent I must consider what's at stake and must think about decisions made in this moment affecting the long term.
Knowledge: Knowing that there will be days when my kids don't like me helps. I don't expect them to like everything I say and do. Yeah, it'd make things easier on me today but would be doing them harm in the future. As a parent having the mindset that it's ok for my kids to not like me somedays helps. I'll be a jerk today if that's what it takes.
There is no other relationship in my life that's a tenuous as that of parent....I can't win some days. And, as hard as that is to accept sometimes, I really am ok with being a jerk. I know that one day it will be worth it.
How about you? In what ways are you a jerk to your kids?!