The type-A mom in me wants to quickly assemble a check list of all that we must accomplish over the next six years, sit down and teach these items, and have a quick run through to make sure they know their stuff
"Do you realize that we only have six more Christmases with her" was the question my husband asked me several weeks ago? Wow. I know they say time flies but when you look at it from how much time we have left with our kids at home before they leave, it really does appear to be like a water vapor. I felt like I could cry.
When our kids are tiny and we are up to our armpits in Legos and Barbies, we can't possibly imagine ever having a life that isn't totally dedicated to their every waking moment. When I think about how limited my time is now with my older girls, I'm struck with a feeling of panic. All of the things I want them to know before they leave home (six Christmases from now!) come flooding my mind and I feel overwhelmed.
The type-A mom in me wants to quickly assemble a check list of all that we must accomplish over the next six years, sit down and teach these items, and have a quick run through to make sure they know their stuff. If they don't pass the exam, they don't leave (yeah, right!).
The realist in me knows that The Lord is the one who holds their futures. Not me, as hard as that is to realize. God has entrusted these kids to me for just a short season." He who began the work in them will be faithful to complete it" (Phil. 1:6) as they grow and mature in Him.
How does this change me today?
1. It changes my outlook. I'm so tempted to focus upon the day to day tasks of mothering. God has called me to think about the eternal impact of my parenting today. I need to focus my parenting on their long-term outcome rather than today's drama. God focuses upon the eternal.
2. My focus changes. I realize that my focus should be upon the relationship my kids have with the Lord rather than what they did/didn't do today. Tough one when it seems the lessons I struggle to teach day to day fall on deaf ears. Each and every day is filled with challenges that weren't there the day before. I'm tired of trying to keep teaching the same things day in and day out. I find myself frustrated at their lack of compliance. Rather than focusing upon the submission of my kids to my authority, I must focus upon their ability to submit to the Father.
3. My focus needs to be on committing my mothering to God rather than how I succeed/fail in my attempt at mothering. I get so caught up in the daily grind of mothering and how to problem solve that I forget to focus upon the One who made my children. It's His wisdom I seek. I must seek this moment by moment sometimes. Our time of influence is so limited. I want it to matter and, without His direction, I am worthless.
4. My relationship with the Lord needs to be priority number one. If my kids don't see me loving the Father, how will they know what it looks like to love Him? If they don't see me seeking Him for wisdom, how will they know where to go?
When so much of our daily lives is consumed with the raising of our kids, it's hard to imagine that we will spend so many years living our lives without having direct influence over them. How does this change the way you parent today?