What happens when the fairy tale doesn’t match reality? What if the fairytale doesn’t end the way you’d always dreamed? You’re left with a bride who had dreams that could never really be satisfied by the man she just chose to spend the rest of her life with and a man who is as imperfect as she and may never enter upon a fine horse to save the day.
Why have our girls taken to romantic relationships at such an early age? I believe it’s because of the things we let them encounter at young and younger ages. The movies, television, and music that our daughters encounter on a daily basis are affecting the way they view romance.
What can we do about it?
1. Realize what’s happening. The world will do all it can to push our daughters into their molds, and for the most part, we’ve allowed them to do it.
2. Recognize that this is an intentional attack of the devil. He wants nothing more than to create a false hope and false reality of what romance and marriage all about. Once you’ve recognized this for what it is, it’s time to fight back.
#. Re-evaluate what your daughters are exposed to. I’ve had to rely so heavily upon Romans 12:2 as we fight this battle in our home, “do not conform any longer to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds.” This verse reminds me that I’ve got to stand up to the enemy of my daughter’s soul and fight with all that I have. I have got to renew my own mind first. I do that by guarding what I watch, listen to, and read. I have personal standards and my kids know what they are. They then see me living in the world and demonstrating what a life transformed looks like.
I want my daughters to know and understand what a real, Godly relationship is all about. I want to help them define that now, before the hormones kick in and time is against me. I know that I can’t do this by exposing them to things that our society sees as trendy. I will remember that though others see things as “innocent enough” or even cute, I have got to realize, recognize who the enemy is, and reevaluate all that my daughter is allowed to take in at this age.
Publish a fiction book that will make the everyday woman blush and you’ve got a winner. These things seem innocent enough until you’re sitting across from a couple who is in marital conflict because their expectations hadn’t been met by their partner. They’d been sucked into believing the lies of the enemy, not the one who ordained marriage from the beginning of time. Think that the world doesn’t try to shove us mom’s into it’s mold too? Think again.
How about you? How do you teach your daughters to have an appropriate view of romance? How do you combat all she sees in popular media?