We live much the same way. We push the boundaries when it comes to our living our faith.
We teach our kids to do the same.
How much can we get away with before somethig becomes a sin?
Is it possible to live in such a way that we are "just enough" Christian?
James 4:4 says, "You're cheating on God. If all you want is your own way, flirting with the world every chance you get" (The Message). Wow, cheating on God? That's how God sees it when we are conformists.
None of us likes to be different. It makes us uncomfortable. It means that we may be put in an awkward situation or have undue attention placed on us. Yet, this is the very thing God calls us to.
Conformity is a slippery slope. We often find ourselves trying to navigate this slippery slope. Why? Because we're afraid of what others may think of us or because we are trying to gain acceptance. Just like a baby trying to figure out its way around, we are
immature in how we live out our faith.
If trying to be liked and trying to fit in are natural inclinations that we all have, how can we teach our kids to live in the world without feeling the need to conform?
1. We draw boundaries around them. We are willing to be different than other parents. We make the tough calls when it comes to the choices our kids make. Make
sure you have the same boundaries in your life. We don't allow our kids (or ourselves)
to flirt with things of the world.
2. We teach them to understand that this life is just temporary. When we understand that we are merely passing through, it changes the way we live. I Peter 1:17 says that you should "live out your time as foreigners here." Find practical ways to teach this principle to your kids. Flirting is a temporary situation. A real relationship with Christ will last.
3. We model this by the way we live. So many times, we as parents are guilty of trying to conform ourselves. Romans 12:2 says, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world." Our responsibility is very clearly stated here. In The
Message, this verse says,
"Don't become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking."
This verse implies that we will, naturally err on the side of conforming. As parents, fight hard.
Draw the boundaries.
Make the tough calls.
Parent with the end result in mind.
Our kids need to be willing to live their faith out. Don't let your kids flirt with the world. Take a stand. Don't flirt.
Does your commitment to Christ fluctuate with the changing culture?
How about your kids? How will you teach them that it's no OK to flirt
with the world?
Do parents have a problem with conforming too?