I was having coffee with a friend a while back and sat listening as she recounted some of the sad things happening in the life of her family. I left that conversation thinking “wow, I’ll bet she never dreamed of her life turning out like that.” I wondered if she felt that she’d “almost”had it all.
As young people, we often dream of our future, we plan out the size of our families, the career we will have, and where we’d like to live. Our dreams of bright futures do not include addictions, job worries, abuse, or family struggles.
I don’t want my kids futures to be filled with “almost”moments. Is it possible to set the course now for your kids as you dream about their futures? Yes. If you think about their lives in 5 years what do you see? How about 10? 20? What will your relationship with them be like? What sort of character will they demonstrate? How will they treat others? In order to dream of a future for our kids where “almost” isn’t an option, we’ve got to begin to make it happen today. We parent intentionally today. Parenting intentionally means that you operate each day with the end in mind.
Do you want your kids to be trustworthy? Then teach them now to be trustworthy by the way you live. Allow them to see you as trustworthy. Always keep your word. Do you want them to be reliable? Be reliable with them when it comes to boundaries and discipline. Model what a reliable person looks like.
Jesus cast a vision for the people he interacted with. He cast a vision for Peter when He said “upon this rock I’ll build my church.” Jesus saw something in Peter and cast a vision for Peter’s life. Cast a vision for your kids. What’s your vision for your kids? Begin parenting today with the end result in mind. How will you get them there?
More than anything, I want my kids to know and walk with the Lord. I want them to love Him and commit each day to serving Him by their attitudes. I want them to deeply love Jesus and be willing to do whatever He asks of their lives. I want them to understand that walking with the Lord is so much more than following rules. I want them to be changed because of what He’s able to do in each of our lives. In order for my kids to get this, I’ve got to allow them to see it at work in me. I can’t live at the “almost”level myself. I’ve got to be sold out.
What’s the legacy you want to leave for your kids? Start living it today. I start by changing myself. I make my family a priority and work on my marriage. I commit to growing deeper in my relationship with Christ. In twenty years as I reflect upon where my children are, the types of people they’ve become and the lives they’re leading, I pray that I will not they will not lament the “almosts” in their lives. The only way to truly have it all is to have all of Christ and His forgiveness. I will cast this vision today and will parent with this end in mind.
What will you do today to ensure that your kids don’t “almost” have it all one day?