In an attempt to intentionally guide our girls, we want to give them role models to whom they can look. I ask ten women who have solid walks with The Lord to write a letter to the birthday girl. In that card or letter, I ask them to highlight ten lessons that The Lord has taught them. I also ask them to give one verse that is their favorite. We use these ten cards to read for the next ten nights as our family devotions. It is our hope then that our girls learn to admire women who are strong in their faith as they grow in their own. Reading the stories of others is such a great way to grow in your own
We also begin to pray about choosing a mentor for our daughters. We ask God to lay someone on our hearts that
would be a superior role model and who would be able to invest in our kids. We realize that while we always hope that our girls will come to us with anything, there will come a point when they probably won’t. As parents, we want to surround our girls with people who have developed a relationship with them and who will then become a source of strength to the girls. We know that the kids will have many other relationships and will seek advice from their friends. Our intention, however, is that we surround them with those that we trust and know will be a source of wisdom when our words carry less. I love knowing that my girls know that this person has been placed in their lives so that they can have a trusted source of support as they enter the teenage years soon.
We provide one gift to our daughters on their tenth birthday. My husband shops for a key necklace that he presents to them. This key symbolizes the key to their hearts. He explains to them that he will hold the key to their hearts until the day comes when they will give their hearts to another. We want them to understand that though we will fail them as parents, we have their best interest at heart. Dad commits to guiding their hearts and they commit to trusting him and his
judgment. It’s fun to hear the girls explain what it means when their friends as about their necklaces.
So as we celebrate number 10 with our middle daughter, we enter into yet another season of intentional parenting. The 13th birthday looms around the corner and we begin to dream about what that will look like even now. May God continue to inspire creative ideas as we seek to intentionally parent.
What do you do to intentionally use birthdays to teach spiritual truths? **our plan is to find a “treasure box” sort of thing to place all of these spiritually significant items in for them to have as they age. A “faith box” that will have their dedication certificates, baptism stuff, these ten items, and other spiritually significant mementos that will help them share their faith
journey with their kids one day. I still haven’t found the right box…..keep your eyes open for me!