1. Become confident.
Ever feel like you have no idea how to lead? Me too.
Ever wonder if God made a mistake calling you to ministry? Me too.
Do you second guess your decisions as a leader? Me too.
Wonder if you're making the right call or have the right people in place? Yep. Me too.
Doubting is so normal. I don't know any leader who does not doubt his/her ability to make all of the right calls 100% of the time.
We are all in over our heads. Underqualfied and uncertain.
Instead of operating out of your lack of confidence, focus on how God has called you. If He's called you to ministry, He's wired and equipped you as well. Stop second guessing yourself. Lead until God closes the door.
Part of being confident means that I admit my shortcomings. I am vulnerable and transparent as a leader. I move boldly through my week knowing that The Lord will redirect me if I am grieving Him. I ask Him to order my steps and move knowing that He has called me to lead. I don't wait or second guess everything I'm doing as a leader. Claim 1 Corinthians 15:58
"With all this going for us, my dear, dear friends, stand your ground. And don’t hold back. Throw yourselves into the work of the Master, confident that nothing you do for him is a waste of time or effort." 1 Corinthians 15:58
2. Love people.
Really love them.
Those people you see in the foyer and hallway, they're moms and dads bearing the battle wounds of parenting from a place of insecurity and inferiority. They need to know someone notices them. Sit with them and listen. Don't give answers. Just listen and love on them. They're doing the best they know to do. They want to be better parents. Pray with them. Carry their burdens.
The kid who has been bullied all year long needs you. Go meet them for lunch at school. Sit with them. Let them know they matter.
So much of ministry is do, do, do. What if for the next few weeks you stopped doing (not the necessary parts of your job obviously)? Stopped planning your next big event and just sat with a parent instead. Take a kid out for a Coke. Learn to look at people in the hallways. Ask how you can pray for them this week.
Pray that God would increase your ability to love others.
Love the volunteer that is tough to work with.
Love the parent who gives you unending grief.
Love the staff person that you feel you're competing with.
Genuinely loving people will change the way you lead them. It will also change the way they follow.
3. Serve others.
It's not about us. It never has been. Taking me out of the equation as a leader, I ask "who can I serve this week?" What if it would be of great benefit to serve in another staff person's ministry? Is there a parent who needs a meal taken in? I could organize that. Are there projects around the church that have been needing to be done? Spend a few hours and chip in. Jesus called us to lead. Leaders serve others because they realize ministry is not about them. Serve by giving up a prime date for an event because it will benefit another ministry to do so. Serve the parents in your ministry by looking for ways to resource them constantly.