So, because my heart gets in the way, I've got to ask God to give me a new heart. I've got to train my own heart to remember that this life is not about me.
I hate to see my kids in pain. It hurts my heart when they experience disappointment. When they hut, I hurt. As a result, I'm tempted to soften the blow for my kids, to shield them from hurt or to take the slack so that they experience less hurt.
While my momma's heart may have great intentions, it's important that I allow my kids to experience hurt and disappointment from time to time. It's one of the hardest things I've had to learn as a mom. I want to rescue.
God wants to use the situations they face to teach them to depend upon Him, not me. When I rescue them, I show them I am the hero. When I allow the them to suffer and work through situations on their own, they're more likely to learn that God is their hero.
"Parent's don't like it when their kids are in a bad mood. Things are just easier when everybody is happy." (Reggie Joiner) How can I remember that my goal should not be to keep my kids happy? I teach them....
It'snot about them. Contrary to what our society wants to teach us and our kids, it's not about me. It's really all about God. We have to make this our starting point. It's great to think that my kids would never really know girl drama, have an issue with a teacher or boss or never receive a bad grade. Because this isn't likely, I need to remember that above all, my aim is that they know God. It is more important than anything else.
My heart wants them to know the heart of God.
I teach them that God can be trusted. They learn to trust Him with the details of their lives....the bad grades, the
unfair teacher, and the mean classmate. They realize that this is bigger than they are.
"If I become too absorbed with my own problems, started throwing a pity party, or was tempted to think the world should revolve around me" (Reggie Joiner) I'm not fulfilling God's purpose in my life.
So, because my heart gets in the way, I've got to ask God to give me a new heart. I've got to train my own heart to remember that this life is not about me. I model this in my own life and demonstrate for my kids how this works.
I admit that I'm limited as a parent and ask God to fill in the blanks. I'm not enough. He is. So instead of trying to rescue my kids, I will allow them to hurt. I will show that what it means to turn to Christ in the midst of their hurt.
How about you? Do you find it difficult to allow your kids to experience hurt and disappointment?
"I am not trying to make them happy;
I want them to really live.
In the middle of their pain,
I can be a better friend than anyone,
I am the only One who can really
love them unconditionally,
forgive them forever,
and be a perfect Father.
So maybe you just need to trust Me
enough so they can see Me.
with all of your issues,
I think it's probably better
for them to trust Me more
than they trust you.
Isn't it more important for them
to love Me more than they love you?
I can heal their hearts; you can't.
I can give them eternal life;
I am God;